🔥 𝐒𝐞𝐥𝐟-𝐃𝐞𝐜𝐞𝐩𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧: 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐑𝐨𝐨𝐭 𝐨𝐟 𝐒𝐞𝐥𝐟-𝐒𝐚𝐛𝐨𝐭𝐚𝐠𝐞 🔥

Many of us struggle with self-sabotage, but have you ever wondered why?

The answer often lies in self-deception.

Self-deception is the unconscious process of distorting reality to protect ourselves from uncomfortable truths.

While it may offer temporary comfort, it leads to behaviors that undermine our goals and potential.

🔍 𝐇𝐨𝐰 𝐒𝐞𝐥𝐟-𝐃𝐞𝐜𝐞𝐩𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐋𝐞𝐚𝐝𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐒𝐞𝐥𝐟-𝐒𝐚𝐛𝐨𝐭𝐚𝐠𝐞

𝟏. 𝐃𝐞𝐧𝐢𝐚𝐥 𝐨𝐟 𝐭𝐫𝐮𝐞 𝐧𝐞𝐞𝐝𝐬 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐝𝐞𝐬𝐢𝐫𝐞𝐬: We set unrealistic goals or avoid necessary actions.

𝟐. 𝐀𝐯𝐨𝐢𝐝𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐮𝐧𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐭𝐚𝐛𝐥𝐞 𝐭𝐫𝐮𝐭𝐡𝐬: We procrastinate or engage in perfectionism to avoid facing fears.

𝟑. 𝐑𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐳𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧: We justify actions that undermine our progress.

𝟒. 𝐅𝐞𝐚𝐫 𝐨𝐟 𝐕𝐮𝐥𝐧𝐞𝐫𝐚𝐛𝐢𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐲: We avoid seeking help or admitting mistakes.

𝟓. 𝐅𝐚𝐥𝐬𝐞 𝐂𝐨𝐦𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐭 𝐙𝐨𝐧𝐞𝐬: We resist change and miss growth opportunities.

🔶 𝐒𝐭𝐞𝐩𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐎𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞:

𝟏. 𝐀𝐜𝐤𝐧𝐨𝐰𝐥𝐞𝐝𝐠𝐞 𝐒𝐞𝐥𝐟-𝐃𝐞𝐜𝐞𝐩𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧: Recognize and admit the false narratives we tell ourselves.

𝟐. 𝐑𝐞𝐟𝐥𝐞𝐜𝐭 𝐇𝐨𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐥𝐲: Identify the fears and insecurities driving these narratives.

𝟑. 𝐑𝐞𝐟𝐫𝐚𝐦𝐞 𝐁𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐞𝐟𝐬: Align actions with true values and realistic goals.

𝟒. 𝐒𝐞𝐞𝐤 𝐒𝐮𝐩𝐩𝐨𝐫𝐭: Embrace vulnerability and seek help when needed.

𝟓. 𝐄𝐦𝐛𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐞 𝐂𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐞: Step out of comfort zones and pursue growth.

By confronting self-deception, we can break free from self-sabotage and unlock our true potential.

📘 𝐅𝐮𝐫𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐈𝐧𝐬𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭

I've been diving into "Leadership and Self-Deception" by the Arbinger Institute, which has deepened my understanding of these concepts.

In future posts we explore how the root of self-deception lies in self-betrayal.

🖌️ 𝐖𝐢𝐥𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐡𝐚𝐫𝐞?

Have you ever caught yourself in a moment of self-deception?

📌 𝐄𝐱𝐚𝐦𝐩𝐥𝐞𝐬 𝐨𝐟 𝐒𝐞𝐥𝐟-𝐃𝐞𝐜𝐞𝐩𝐭𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐒𝐭𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐬 💬

➡️ If I don’t do it, it won’t be done right.

➡️ I am always available. Taking a break is a waste of time.

➡️ My success is defined by my title.

➡️ I don’t have time to develop others.

➡️ Showing vulnerability is a sign of weakness.

➡️ I’m realistic. They just don't understand me.

➡️ It’s lonely at the top.

➡️ I can't ask for help; I need to handle this alone.

➡️ Admitting a mistake will undermine my authority.

➡️ I need to have all the answers. I need to be perfect.